Biting as Communication
At Shotley Bridge Nursery School, we understand that biting is a common yet challenging behaviour often observed in young children. While it can be distressing for parents and caregivers, it’s important to recognise that biting is usually a form of communication rather than an act of aggression. As such, our approach centres on developing empathy and supporting children to express themselves in healthier ways.
Why Do Children Bite?
Biting can stem from various reasons and is often a developmental phase. Understanding these causes helps guide our response in a way that supports all children involved. Common reasons include:
- Teething: Relieving the discomfort of new teeth coming through.
- Exploring Cause and Effect: Testing responses and understanding their environment.
- Imitating Others: Copying behaviours they observe.
- Oral Stimulation: Satisfying sensory needs.
- Expressing Emotions: Displaying anger, excitement, or frustration.
- Seeking Attention: Drawing focus from adults or peers.
- Communication Difficulties: When verbal expression is not yet fully developed.
Developing Empathy: Our Role as Educators
“Children’s behaviour is language and a form of communication.” – S. Boyd
Our approach to biting focuses on nurturing empathy and understanding rather than simple correction. When a child bites, it is essential to guide them thoughtfully and sensitively. Encouraging apologies is only effective when a child understands their actions and shows genuine remorse. Often, young children do not fully grasp the consequences, making forced apologies ineffective.
Instead, we model empathy ourselves. This includes acknowledging how the bitten child feels and demonstrating ways to express remorse that are age-appropriate. For older children, who may feel regret but struggle with impulse control, we maintain a supportive and understanding stance.
Alternative Approaches to Address Biting
- Focus on the Injured Child: Prioritise the well-being of the bitten child, discussing their feelings and comforting them.
- Discuss the Situation: Engage with the child who bit by exploring their emotions and, where appropriate, talking about alternative strategies.
- Offer Outlets for Emotions: Encourage expressing feelings through alternative actions, such as drumming or engaging in calming opportunities.
- Promote Positive Role-Modelling: Adults act as consistent, calm figures, introducing emotional regulation through example.
Effective Strategies for Minimising Biting
“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.” – L.R. Knost
To proactively manage biting, we implement various supportive strategies:
- Firm, Clear Communication: Using a calm but assertive voice to say, “No, stop. Biting hurts.”
- Conversations About Feelings: Help children articulate their emotions: “I see you were upset. Can you tell me why?”
- Encouraging Emotional Language: Providing children with the words to express themselves can prevent frustration-fuelled biting.
- Creating a Calm Zone: A designated quiet space allows children to decompress when feeling overwhelmed.
- Teething Aids: Teething rings can redirect biting behaviour when discomfort is the cause.
- Sensory Toys: Items like sensory necklaces provide oral stimulation for children with strong biting impulses.
- Crunchy Snacks: These offer sensory satisfaction and can be included as part of the daily routine.
Supporting Parents and Carers
We recognise that biting can be concerning for parents, which is why maintaining open communication is crucial. We provide reassurance and guidance through our professional team, ensuring parents feel involved and informed throughout this developmental phase. By partnering with parents and carers, we create a holistic approach that fosters understanding and compassion both at home and in the nursery.
A Nurturing Path Forward
At Shotley Bridge Nursery School, we are dedicated to nurturing happy, creative, and resilient children. Our comprehensive and empathetic approach to behaviours like biting ensures that children learn valuable emotional skills while feeling supported and understood. By working together, we build a respectful and kind nursery environment where children develop empathy, express themselves positively, and grow into confident individuals.
